Short: Navigating Toxic Relationships

0:00[Music] 0:1212 secondsso I'm Valaria I'm an aerospace engineer and I come from Mexico I live now in California I guess it's hard to find the word toxic you know like what is a toxic 0:2121 secondsrelationship and I feel like my partner was holding me back instead of pushing me forward he used to make a lot of 0:2828 secondscomments about like my body about my clothes about my career about my hobbies and everything had always this 0:3737 secondscriticizing like tone under it I just started uh changing some things for him getting away from my friends and my 0:4646 secondsfamily I was doing all the things that you're not supposed to do like getting away from your network the first thing that you're not supposed to do getting away from your hobbies like stop doing 0:5454 secondswhat you like for your partner because he's not into that too much and it's help and it helped a lot a lot I remember one of the first things my 1:031 minute, 3 secondstherapist asked me was to write in my whiteboard in my room my needs are important so my task was to read it 1:101 minute, 10 secondsevery day and kind of believe it you know believe it but like deeply so every time I needed to I I readed that I 1:181 minute, 18 secondsremember okay I need to eat I need to sleep I need to take care of myself cuz my needs are important and that's something that no one had told me before 1:261 minute, 26 secondsthat I need to take care of myself